Not Understandable

Maybe the reason why it's felt different between us is because you've stopped listening.
All because you're mad at me for doing something you don't like that's my decision, you have to get your bra stuck in your shirt and be fussy. You tell me, "You need to be a sister, and learn how to be responsible." Obviously, I know that sort of, but see I have all these misconceptions on that sentence you say. Why don't you ask me why it's hard to be that way towards him? All my life you've heard me cry and throw tantrums about how you guys spoil him and I respond to him in a mean way... And responsibility? Why don't you ask me if I even know how to be responsible?

Adult: Why are you the way you are towards him?
Me: Because he's not only my brother, he's Mikey. I keep doing the same ways trying to change him, and I know I should stop... Maybe I should stop now. I'm sorry, I should be the one to change my ways.

Adult: Do you know what responsibility is?
Me: I kind of have a vague definition of it but it's taking consideration for your actions and always being helpful around the house, doing homework without being told, being home without being called, checking up without worrying the parents, the simple things like that. But what's your definition, Mum?

How hard is that? When I say you should listen I don't mean like hear my ramble about and be "lenient" (as you would say), but just ask questions why, and the how comes, and the do you even knows because I can't do these things by myself.

We're a team, ***, not just a team, but a family.

p.s. All you have to do is ask and talk to me. You don't have to yell or ignore me, but I'm willing to listen to.